Why I Chose to Forgive My Dad

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So I'm trying something new with BB growth. I've been doing a podcast called the CROC pot for probably close to a year now where I'm just documenting my personal journey and it's really more for the legacy of it than anything else. I'm not doing it necessarily for marketing, which is why I don't talk about it a whole lot on social media. But but it's really for my grandkids. I want my grandkids to be able to hear and of what it was like. Is GRANDPA was, you know, starting a business as a thirty, thirty one year old guy, getting his business off the ground and documenting the ups and downs of it, and I want to start integrating a piece of that into bdb growth as well. For now, I think I'm going to be posting these episodes on the weekend, so Saturdays or Sundays, and it's not necessarily going to be specifically about BEDB marketing or growth from a revenue perspective. It's going to be more and of personal development, what I'm learning,...

...how I'm growing as as a human more so than as a business owner. But obviously there will be, you know, a lot of a lot of business tie backs because of how you know important business is in my own life and and so today's topic, I'm going to talk about this idea of forgiveness and really just going to be sharing a story of why this is been a powerful thing in my own life. Some of you guys know my dad left when I was very young. I was two years old, I think, when when when he left, and and I had a very sporadic relationship with him growing up. He would, you know, I would see him once every summer. Sometimes I would be a couple years before, you know before I would I would get to see him again. Just very distant relationship. And when I was, I believe, twenty one, I was in college, he kind of Hit rock bottom and he came to my mom and...

...basically said, hey, I I don't really have anything. I just got let go for my job. I would what I be able to what I'd be able to stay with with you. And at the time my dad was living in Texas and I was in Oklahoma, and so my mom offered, you know, him my bedroom since I had left and gone to college, so she had an extra room and I remember her telling me that that dad was going to be moving in and and my instant reaction be being, you know, like, how dare you? Like he wasn't around, you know, my entire childhood. Why on Earth would you led him into our lives now? And you know my my faith is, you know, very important to me and my walk with Jesus is incredibly important. And as I kind of checked my initial reaction to my mom's response of letting my dad move into...

...our house, I was I was just overwhelmed with this sense of, you know, needing to forgive my my father for the absence of, you know, his presence in my life growing up. And the more I kind of pressed into that and prayed through it, you know, after that conversation with my mom, just realized that, you know, me, me not forgiving him and me holding on to that, to that bitterness, was wasn't helping anyone and it wasn't helping my dad, it wasn't helping me. And so made a very conscious choice to at that at that moment, really to let go of that that bitterness and anger toward my dad and and to say, you know what, if he's if he's going to come back into my life and he's going to move in to my mom's house, which was, you...

...know, thirty minutes away from the town where I went to college. I'm going to embrace really trying to pursue a relationship with my dad and and in making that that that mindset shift to saying, instead of being bitter, I'm going to I'm going to choose forgiveness and I'm going to not just choose to forgive him, but I'm actually going to try to pursue a relationship with him. Ended up being, you know, a game changer. That was about a decade ago now, and my dad this past in the past two weeks, has since moved to Florida. I moved to Florida about eight years ago and Dad stayed in Oklahoma. He eventually moved out of my mom's house and got into his own place, but he he has since now moved to Florida after, you know, US having really a thriving relationship for the last ten years, and I just keep thinking back about that story and about that season...

...of my life where I could have chosen to hold on to that bitterness and and feeling very justified in doing so, honestly, because, you know, he bailed when I was too and and really had no presence in my life growing up, and and I had every every right to kind of column on that and say Hey, like you, you build on the most formidable years of my life, so I'm going to choose to to not engage with you. And I could have done that. And looking back on it now and seeing the relationship that we've had over the last decade with him, you know, now moving, moving to Florida. He lives about an hour away from me now, and, you know, just being so grateful for for God, restoring that relationship and and even though I didn't, you know, have a dad growing up, to get to have one now, I think is something really special that I would have missed out on had I not chosen to...

...forgive and really embrace a relationship with him. And I think the blessing that it is to him to now have a relationship with his son and and for me to have a relationship with my dad, I think is really cool. So, I know I talked about relationships a lot from a business perspective and leveraging podcasting to create genuine relationships between you and your buyers, and I think this is a really important, you know, relational lesson at least that I've learned the lesson of forgiveness and, regardless of you know how much somebody, quote unquote, screwed you over in the past, choosing to forgive them and and maybe you know in your context, maybe it maybe it's a little bit tougher to actually embrace pursuing a friendship and a relationship with that person, but I think getting started with with at least forgiveness is a very powerful first move.

For me it's been incredibly beneficial and and as I've gone on to pursue an actual friendship with my dad now, well beyond just forgiving him but actually having a relationship with him, has been has been incredibly, incredibly huge for my life. So hope that's helpful for you. If if you hated this, then you can probably just tune out of the of the weekend episodes because I'm going to be focusing more on personal development, my own story how I've grown as a man and and as a leader, more so than just talking about bedb marketing. So hope you enjoyed it. Thanks A lot,.

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